As the straightest and most vanilla woman in the world I still don't get it. How does what other people do affect me or my marriage exactly? Unless they're hitting on my hubby I could care less WHAT they are doing and WHO they are doing it with. Also, I don't care HOW they are doing it or how MANY people they are doing it with as long as - and this is key - I don't have to HEAR about it. Gay, straight, kinky, poly I don't care, but that shit is PRIVATE and I shouldn't have to know all the gristly details. Sure I'm hung up about sex - but at least I'm hung up about everyone's sex. I'm an equal opportunity ostrich.